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April 22, 2010-- Volume 6, Issue 1 |
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A Message from Kim |
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Hi Everyone, Make today the day you want it to be! |
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In This Issue |
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Feature Article Upcoming Basic Intensive Weeks in Reality Therapy Book Review |
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Ten Reasons to Become a Coach Coaching is a field that’s been rapidly expanding over the past 15-20 years. It’s a profession many Baby Boomers and others are entering and it’s a supervision skill many managers and teachers are learning. Coaching comes out of an understanding of human motivation. People are motivated by internal motivation, not external rewards and consequences. Much research has been done in this area. Yes, you can get people to work for external rewards but the research shows they often do worse. People are motivated by understanding how what they are doing contributes to the whole. They want to do things that are interesting to them. They are motivated by doing things that are need-satisfying to them. People are motivated by safety, security; connection, relationships; power, importance, respect, significance; freedom, choices, independence; fun and learning. People are not motivated by fear. Fear will cause many people to seek to avoid pain and the punisher but when they are left to their own devices, they will do what they are internally motivated to do. The best you can hope for with coercion is compliance. You won’t get quality, inspiration and creativity. Coaching in the workplace helps people tap into their internal motivation. A coach helps people set goals, determine what quality looks like and supports the person on the path toward realizing those goals. Life Coaching helps people who are seeking self-growth and development reach their personal goals. It is not like counseling because coaching is often done by phone with individuals without mental health concerns. Coaching works with healthy people looking to make positive change in their lives. It is very present oriented. Coaches do not delve into the past for explanations of behaviors. They take clients from where they are into the future to who they want to be. In this way, coaches get hired similar to how people hire personal trainers for an exercise program. Coaches are hired for their knowledge. When their clients don’t know how to do something, coaches provide expertise in human motivation. When their clients lack confidence, coaches support and encourage. When clients are sabotaging themselves or waning in their enthusiasm, coaches challenge their clients to be their best. Yes, people can accomplish their hopes and dreams without a professional coach but they can do it much faster with one.
If you are interested in learning coaching skills, then look for a coaching program near you. Learning the skills of coaching will serve you throughout your life while you work with your clients, employees, students and even your own children. Copyright © April 2010 Kim Olver. All rights reserved.
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Inside Out Empowerment Mastermind Group The Inside Out Empowerment Mastermind Group is not a typical teleconference. This is an actual mastermind group. Members participate equally -- both giving to others and receiving suggestions for their own challenges and opportunities. Click on the link to learn more about IOE and how it can help you to open your heart, free your mind and transform your life. July 26 & 27, 2010 Learn why businesses are moving from the authoritarian approach in supervision to the collaborative coaching approach in this two-day class. Generation X and Y workers do not respond well to authoritarian supervision. Coaching provides a new model of supervision designed to reach those workers. Learn the psychology behind this supervision style and practice its use while receiving feedback. Goal Setting & Attainment: Getting What You Want in 2010! May 8 , 2010 -- 1;00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m. You can attain your goals year after year with an effective, time-tested system —a plan with built-in support and accountability. Attaining your goals requires hard work and determination. You need to plan and make time to work on your goals. They will not just happen. This workshop will give you the strategies you need to make a plan and manage your time while still maintaining a positive attitude and staying motivated until you complete your goals. Upcoming Basic Intensive Weeks in Reality Therapy
The Basic Intensive Week in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy is a 4 day or 4½-day workshop where you will be exposed to some highly innovative ideas of Dr. William Glasser. You will learn the new psychology of personal freedom called Choice Theory. There is application in this workshop for teachers, school administrators, counselors, therapists, social workers, business managers, clergy, nurses, parents, and anyone interested in improving the quality of their life. You will learn how to empower yourself by distinguishing between those things you can control and those you can’t and focus your energy on those you can. There is practical advice about how to improve the important relationships in your life and how to become the person you want to be. This workshop helps you become more effective in counseling and teaching others, particularly those who may not even know they need your help—non-voluntary clients and less than enthusiastic students. The group size is kept small enough that you will receive individual attention and have plenty of time to have your questions answered. |
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"Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow." —Ronald E. Osborn Coaching is a great way to help yourself move beyond what you have already mastered. Sometimes you reach a peak of accomplishment that you can't seem to push beyond on your own. A coach can make the difference in helping you breakthrough self-imposed thresholds. Continue to grow and stretch to your utmost potential. |
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The Big Leap It takes quite a bit to get me really excited about a new book. I recommend many but every now and then, I read one that I think really makes a difference. The book I'm referring to is The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.
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Coaching involves Socratic questioning techniques that lead the person being coached toward a deeper, honest and accurate self-evaluation. How do you accomplish that? |
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Question: Working with sophomore girls who are embroiled in relation aggression (mean girls). I can help the target (victim) by choosing thinking and doing that removes them from being the target. But I'm at a loss with the queen bees who perpetrate the aggression to their followers using Facebook, Myspace, text and IM. Suggestions? Answer: First, I would recommend a good book by Ken Pierce, The Dance of Bullying. Then, I would work with the "mean girls" on what it is they really want when they engage in the behavior of bullying. They may be girls who feel they have no other power anywhere else in their lives. Of course, if this is the case, I'd be working with them on developing their on self-worth through power within options as opposed to powering over others. I would want to build empathy for the victim by asking them to imagine what it would be like to be targeted in that way. |
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