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December 15, 2005 Volume I, Issue 12 |
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A Message from Kim |
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This can also be your most productive year ever! Yes, I mean that. It isn’t just some rhetoric I’ve put together to sell things during the beginning of the new year. I’ve actually learned so much in the past three years about goal setting and achievement that I want to share it with you. I thought I knew all there was to know in terms of writing down my goals, making good plans, and then not letting anyone or anything get in the way of what I need to do. All that is important, but now I know there is so much more that makes a huge difference! I want to share what I’ve learned with all of you. Please check out my “Goal Setting and Attainment” Teleclass. I am offering three different classes for your convenience. Join us for one of the calls and see the difference you can make in your life this year. Happy Holidays. |
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Goal Setting & Attainment I am sure that many of you are deep into the drama and excitement of the holiday season. There is so much to be done and so much to think about and consider that many can hardly think of anything else. However, when the excitement is over, our attention typically turns the closing of one year and the beginning of a new one. This is a time typically reserved for reflection. We think back on the previous year, sometimes with a strong sense of accomplishment and sometimes with regrets for the things we didn’t do that we wanted to and the goals we set but didn’t accomplish. Sometimes we get so disgusted with ourselves for our lack of goal-directed behavior that we actually stop setting goals altogether. Sometimes we are waiting for something to happen first. We wait to retire, for our children to leave home, or for there to be enough money in the savings account. While we are waiting, time is whizzing past us at an alarming rate. Before we know it, we end up at a place where we say, “Now I’m too old to do ________________ .” While we are waiting for certain life events to manifest, there are things we can still do to move ourselves forward toward our goals. Waiting is not the only option. There are known techniques that will help you improve the odds of accomplishing your goals. What’s the difference between those who seem to breeze through their day accomplishing everything they set out to do and those who seem to wonder where the time went at the end of the day. We all have the same amount of time each day. What’s the secret? First of all, you need to decide what it is you want to accomplish---the more specific you can be the better. We generally do not get too excited about the vague thought of losing weight but if we can say instead, I will lose 10 pounds by March 1, 2006 so I can fit back into a size 10 dress then there is more energy and impetus around that particular goal. Next, you must decide, as Napoleon Hill says, “Do you have a burning desire to accomplish this goal?” Without truly possessing a burning desire, without passion to make it happen, we will often drift back into old behaviors that keep us plateaued at the same place we were the beginning of last year. Once you’ve determined you have the burning desire, next you must ask if you have a good plan. Does your plan have a reasonable chance for success? Do you have deadlines for accomplishment? When you are trying to stop a certain behavior, do you spell out what you are going to do instead? Are the goals realistic? Are they measurable? Do you have the determination and unwavering resolve to follow through on your plan? Sometimes there are things that sabotage our efforts. Typically, the things we do throughout our day are things that meet our needs. If we are trying to lose weight but continue to eat instead, we need to look at what benefits we gain from overeating. Often these are unconscious benefits that we really need to do some serious scrutiny to uncover. If the benefits we receive from our current behavior outweigh the benefits of making the change we desire, we will have a difficult time making the change without building in additional features to our plan that will make up for the benefits of the behavior we are giving up. You need to develop systems to track and measure your progress. Many people require a visual representation of their progress to provide incentive to continue moving forward. You must develop a single-minded focus. You must avoid anything that threatens to pull you off your straight ahead direction toward your goals. You must prioritize and protect your time everyday. The final thing that will be instrumental in achieving your goals in 2006 is to reprogram your nonconscious mind. There is a great deal of evidence that shows the neural programming of our nonconscious mind often gets in the way of us accomplishing our goals. These are the early messages that we picked up from those who were close to us when we were younger. We received messages that money was the root of all evil, that we didn’t deserve to be loved, that we were chubby and will stay that way, and that there is never enough time in a day. All those messages have formed neural pathways in our brain. This means that when certain neurons fire, they trigger the firing of other neurons in the same pathway, which makes it extremely difficult to consciously change our behavior. The good news is that there is a way to reprogram the neural pathways so they will work for us instead of against us to accomplish our goals. Through the processes of affirmations and visualization we have the ability to change this nonconscious programming. We must develop a mental movie of what life will look like once our goals are accomplished. Then, we must write out present tense affirmations of the belief systems we must have in place in order to accomplish our goals. If weight loss is your goal, for example, then your affirmations would sound like this: “I weigh 130 pounds and look and feel terrific. I eat only healthy food that nourishes my body. I enjoy exercising and the way my body feels while doing it and afterwards. I drink at least eight 8-oz. glasses of water each day.” Reprogramming requires repetition of the affirmations and visualization daily and more often if you can make the time. With this added to all of the above goal setting steps, you will be well on your way to accomplishing your goals in 2006. Copyright © December 2005 Kim Olver. All rights reserved |
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Teleclasses All teleclasses are one (1) hour in length and all you need is a telephone. When you register we will send you a phone number that you will call five minutes prior to the start of your teleclass. You will have the opportunity to ask questions, but if you prefer to just listen that’s all right too. Goal Setting & Attainment Come on now; are you serious this time about keeping those New Year's resolutions? Let's really get serious about setting those goals for next year. Neural reconditioning is a step that is rarely discussed but is critical to your long term success. This teleclass will give you a time-proven system for setting and actually attaining those New Year's resolutions. No more excuses. Working with Difficult People Do you work with people who really try your patience? Is it in your best interest to work better with that person? Have you tried everything you can think of? Well, then, it’s time for something different. Join us on this teleclass and find out how you can improve this relationship. How to Do More in Less Time At the end of the day do you go home wondering just what exactly you accomplished? Do you spend a lot of time running around in circles? This teleclass will provide you with time-tested systems for staying organized, working smarter and actually getting more done in less time affording you more time to play. Sound good? Teaching to Different Learning Styles Are you a teacher, trainer or coach looking to increase your effectiveness? Do your educational pieces seem to reach some of your learners but lose others? Enroll in this teleclass. You will learn ways to teach to all three learning styles. We will also discuss the different intelligences so that you may incorporate as many as possible into your teaching to capture as many learners as you can. |
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Chat Room |
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"No one can cheat you out of ultimate success but yourselves.' --Ralph Waldo Emerson When you look back on the unaccomplished goals of 2005, can you see where you could have acted differently to achieve the success you desired? As you are setting your goals for 2006, do you want to do it differently? There are ways to decrease your tendency for self-sabotage. Join us for our teleclass on “Goal Setting & Attainment” and you will learn the methods that will make you a success this year. Take charge of your life! |
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The Ultimate Goals Program Since the theme of this month’s ezine is accomplishing one’s goals, I thought I would share a resource with you that isn’t a book, but rather a 8-CD collection entitled, The Ultimate Goals Program by Brian Tracy. I purchased this collection over a year ago and it is amazing what I have been able to accomplish during this year. Mr. Tracy outlines a plethora of suggestions to help a person move in the direction of his or her goals. Many are simple, practical ways to stay focused on the prize. If you are seeking one, complete information product that encompasses a multitude of ideas for goal setting, then this is it. I will, however, put a disclaimer on the information by saying simply purchasing and listening to Mr. Tracy’s suggestions will not be the thing that helps you with your goals. You must be willing to implement the strategies he discusses. Once you do, there is no limit to the heights to which you can soar. Let’s do it differently this year. Get the help you need to be successful in 2006. Click here to order this program |
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It is very important to have your goals in written format. A study of Harvard Business School graduates demonstrates the importance of written goals to achievement. The 3% of students who had written goals went on to own 95% of their class's combined wealth 20 years later. This is no joke. However, I think we need to do more than write down our goals. We must put them in a place of prominence so that we are reviewing them regularly. Every night before I go to bed, I write down the six most important things I need to accomplish the following day. That way, when I wake up and begin working, I already have a plan of how to proceed. Every Sunday, I spend a couple hours in the afternoon planning what I am going to do the following week. Then, on the first of each month, I plan my work for the next month and I tentatively plan my activities for the next six months. At the beginning of the year, I write my goals for the year. Writing and reviewing one’s goals goes a long way toward ensuring their completion. Do you have your 2006 goals written down? What are you waiting for? |
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Question: I have a whole lot of goals. There are a lot of things I want to accomplish. I know what I want to do but every time I start working on something, I seem to become easily sidetracked. I check my email. I get a phone call from an old friend. I get bored and decide to eat something. Since I work at home, often domestic chores will get in the way of me accomplishing my goals. I don’t know what to do. Answer: There are so many things that could be creating this problem. I will throw out some of the diagnostic questions that I might ask and if I still don’t help you, perhaps you might consider joining us for one of our goal setting teleclasses. Are your goals written down? Do you have a burning desire to accomplish them? What would you have to give up in order to be successful? What benefit do you get from the other things you are engaging in when you want to be focused on your goals? Do you have a good plan? Do you have the motivation to carry out your plan? Are your goals realistic? Are your goals measurable? Do you engage in neural reconditioning behaviors? There is so much to consider in the area of goal attainment. Hopefully, I’ve hit on your particular problem area(s). Let me know how things work out for you. Thanks for reading. |
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Kim Olver is a professional coach, specializing in the field of interpersonal skills, empowerment and leadership development. She has functioned in the role of supervisor and administrator for over 20 years. This column is for readers to submit their questions for Kim to answer. It could be a question about supervision skills, maximizing teamwork, customer service, interpersonal skills or client satisfaction and empowerment. No interpersonal question in the field of work is off limits. To ask your question, simply send it by email to Kim@CoachingforExcellence.biz and look for her response in future issues. |
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How would you like to take one of my teleclasses for f.ree? All you have to do is get two (2) people to subscribe to either of my e-zines and send me their e-mail addresses for confirmation with the name of the teleclass you would like to attend. If you do not wish to attend one of the teleclasses, you can give your f.ree teleclass to a friend or family member. It’s that simple! Send either one or both of the following links to all your friends and family and ask them to subscribe to the e-zine. For the personal edition of "Inside Out", go to The Relationship Center and for the business/school edition go to Coaching for Excellence and have them type their name and email address in the boxes on the right-hand side of the web page where it says, “Subscribe to Receive 'Inside Out', our Fr.ee EZine". Only two people actually have to subscribe for you to be eligible for a f.ree teleclass. Once their subscription has been confirmed you will receive an e-mail giving you the bridge line and access code for the teleclass of your choosing. A listing of teleclasses being offered can be found in both my weekly e-zine or on my calendar page at either web site. There is no limit to the amount of f.ree teleclasses you can earn---you get one f.ree teleclass for every two referrals that sign up for one of my e-zines. Within the next year I am planning on adding many new teleclasses on several topics including the following:
Please continue to check this eZine and my website calendar for these new and exciting teleclasses. Don’t wait, take advantage of this offer and experience the new technology of teleclasses, learning and growing from home or office. |
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Copyright © December 15, 2005 Kim Olver. All rights reserved. |
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Well, it’s hard to believe another year is drawing to a close in just a few short weeks. How did your 2005 measure up for you? Was it a good your for you? I sincerely hope your year was filled with joy, love and accomplishment. As we are about to embark on a new year, is there anything you are wishing for in 2006? Let’s make 2006 the best year of your life. It can be, you know. A lot of it has to do with attitude and mindset. If we can get you thinking correctly, even when things happen that would normally upset you, you will be able to handle them with a new calmness, acceptance and wisdom. You will know that even in tragedy, some positive things can result when you are seeking them.
