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December 11, 2007-- Volume 3, Issue 12 |
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A Message from Kim |
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Hi Everyone, I need to apologize to anyone who has tried to get on any of my sites or send me an email in the past week and a half.. Unfortunately, someone reported me for sending spam. I have NEVER sent spam and operate my business with the utmost integrity and protect my subscriber list diligently. Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on your point of view, my hosting company takes reports of spam very seriously and shuts down the accused site without needing proof of spam. I want to apologize to any of my loyal subscribers for this inconvenience and if you are on my mailing list and believe you did not ask to be, then simply go to the bottom of this email and click on the unsubscribe link and you will be immediately removed from my list. I do not want to be sending email to anyone who does not wish to receive it. Make today the day you want it to be! |
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In This Issue |
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Feature Article Upcoming Events |
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A Dozen Stress Reducers for You If you are familiar with the concept of “Inside Out Thinking,” then you already know that I don’t conceptualize stress as something that exists outside of you. It is actually something you create inside. Stress is a behavior you create to help you get something you want. The only way to reduce stress is to empower yourself to take control of what you can control—namely your actions and your thoughts. You may not believe you can control what you think but with patience, persistence and practice it is not only possible but critical to maintaining a positive state of mental health.
Stress is not inevitable. You definitely do NOT have to be a victim of it. Know that you are choosing it. Know that you are getting something from it and then make a conscious decision about whether or not you want to continue on your same path or do something different. Copyright © December 2007 Kim Olver. All rights reserved
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Goal Setting & Attainment Are you serious about attaining your goals this year? Do you want to do more than make a New Year's Resolution that you forget by the time the Super Bowl is on television? Join me on the free teleconference to learn my time-tested 7-Step process for Goal Attainment. We will do more than set goals--we will discuss a system to implement that will exponentially increase your opportunity for success. Also, my Goal Attainment System is multi-faceted. You won't just be focusing your attention on your career goals unless you want to. My system has you take a look at all areas of your life so you can accomplish an optimal work/life balance for yourself. There is nothing to lose but an hour of your time and so much to gain. Let's make this year your best year yet! Celebrate Diversity Do you maintain a diverse workforce in your place of business? Do you celebrate diversity? Would you like to learn how to create a diverse workplace that embraces diversity? Register for this call and learn how creating a diverse workforce in your place of business can increase your bottom line and create a more pleasant work environment for you, your co-workers and your employees. Choice Theory & Reality Therapy January 29, 2008 -- 8:45 - 9:45 p.m. This class will preview the revolutionary work of one of the greatest thinkers of our time, Dr. William Glasser. During the call, you will learn the basic tenants and concepts of Choice Theory, an explanation of human behavior; Reality Therapy, a process of self-reflection that encourages problem solution and self-growth; Lead Management, a democratic style of leadership that is not only effective in managing workers, but is also effective with the management of students in the classroom and for agencies working with non-voluntary clients; and Quality Schools, a new way of teaching and managing the classroom environment that creates trust, quality relationships, and improved test scores. Sign up today. De-escalation Skills Have you ever been involved in a situation with an angry person where you felt defeated? Either you escalate to their level of aggression or you allowed yourself to get lambasted and felt battered in the end? Either way, you lost by allowing the angry person to dictate your responses and control your effectiveness. Come learn some easy techniques to work with an angry individual to take their level of volitility down to a manageable level so you can intellectually process the problem with them. Empowered Leadership How would you like your leaders to be more effective? How would you like to create a work environment that is empowering to your employees? Register for this call and learn the skills necessary to create an empowered workforce for both management and your employees. Workshops Empowered Leadership Empowered leadership is based on the teachings of W. Edwards Deming and Dr. William Glasser, both of whom had excellent models to capitalize on the talents and abilities of the workforce for the growth and development of the company. In this workshop you will learn concrete steps you can take to achieve the results you want. Finally, real answers to creating an environment that empowers your entire workforce, both management and employees. If you want to keep pace with the changing times, now is the time to take action! Introduction to Choice Theory Stop believing that some degree of unhappiness is necessary in this life and that relationships are always difficult and tumultuous. It doesn’t have to be that way! You can be happy and satisfied in your relationships. All it takes is some adjustments in the things you are doing and the thoughts that dominate your life. Learn the concepts of Choice Theory® and see the difference it will make. Diversity from the Inside Out Discover how to create a diverse workplace that embraces diversity. Register for workshop now and discover how creating a diverse workforce in your place of business can increase profits, reduce turnover, and create a more pleasant and productive work environment for you, your co-workers and your employees. Reality Therapy & Choice Theory The Basic Intensive Week in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy is a 4 day or 4½-day workshop where you will be exposed to some highly innovative ideas of Dr. William Glasser. You will learn the new psychology of personal freedom called Choice Theory. There is application in this workshop for teachers, school administrators, counselors, therapists, social workers, business managers, clergy, nurses, parents, and anyone interested in improving the quality of their life. You will learn how to empower yourself by distinguishing between those things you can control and those you can’t and focus your energy on those you can. There is practical advice about how to improve the important relationships in your life and how to become the person you want to be. This workshop helps you become more effective in counseling and teaching others, particularly those who may not even know they need your help—non-voluntary clients and less than enthusiastic students. The group size is kept small enough that you will receive individual attention and have plenty of time to have your questions answered. |
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"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not -Marcus Aurelius This quote helps us to understand what "Inside Out Thinking" is all about. It is not the events in your lives that are disturbing but rather the thoughts you have about those events and guess what the good news is? You can choose to think differently if you want to. Life events happen. Actually events are neutral - balanced out by an equal amount of positive and negative results attached. Where you place your focus will determine your experience of the event. This explains how some people are overwhelmed by seemingly little stress in their lives, while others are happily going about their business when they seem to have extraordinary amounts of stress. |
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I also have great ideas on decreasing your holiday stress. You can read about them in my article How to Manage Holiday Stress. |
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Question: I have been asking my staff to implement some changes for a while now and I'm frustrated they just don't seem to get it. I think they know what to do and how to do it. I even believe they want to it but it still isn't happening. Any ideas of what to try next? Answer: Well, I don't have a lot of specific information but going on the little I do know, you have assessed three of four areas I typically try to assess. The first area is do your workers know what is being asked? If they don't, then you need to provide them with the information so they can know. Secondly, you want to find out if they know how. This is typically a training issue. Many think that if they know what, then they will automatically know how and that just isn't true. The third area is do they want to do it - are they motivated? Many people are afraid of change and lack the motivation needed to proceed or they don't understand how the change will benefit them. If this is the case, then it is your job, as manager, to help them understand what's in it for them. You are trying to develop the internal motivation to help them understand why they should want to do it. The final area to look at is whether or not the work environment is conducive or supportive of the change you are trying to get. One thing that often impedes progress is a lack of trust. Do your staff trust each other, you the manager and the company? When there is no trust, people are in protection mode. Whenever someone is in protection mode, he or she cannot grow. It is not possible. So, check the environment and see if there are changes you can make there to promote what you want. |
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